Make short term goals that lead to medium and long term ones and to your life’s goal. Take action to set yourself on your pathway to achieve them — as one leads to another. A life without dreamy goals is like trying to walk to the other side of the country without a map, or realistic road directions. You may need to search long and hard, and grow your plans into finding something(s) that you’re passionate about, but it will be worth it for-all-time. It will set your whole life straight.
Be productive. Is there something you’ve always wanted to do? Maybe you wanted to learn origami, or a new language. Maybe it’s time to clean your room, or try to cook. Go on a run. Not only will you feel better, but you might meet someone along the way.
Don’t give yourself away except to your life’s love: hold out for your better life! This may sound old fashioned — but it is essential, if you want to fulfill dreams and know your true love — and not end up in complicated situations that may cost you your life’s best dreams — including your commitment to your true life’s love. These days dating seems like a casual activity, but it certainly is not. Settling for a “coin flip” decision, on giving yourself away, could get you into a lot of complicated situations that will ruin your life! If a guy loves you enough — he will want to spend his entire life with you — and he wouldn’t mind waiting until marriage (that’s if he’s the right guy for you). If he is willing to wait for “you”, it will really show you that he loves you, not just one more temporary, sexual rush. He will have to love you as a person, rather than just appreciating your body. There’s a reason for signing upfor the long term, totally committed relationship: you whole life can still be ahead of you, not in a cracked rear-view mirror.
Respect and appreciate your parents. Your parents can be the most important people in your life. Even if you don’t always get along with them, be kind to them and always respect them. Just remember, without them you wouldn’t be here. Although they are not able to fulfill your wants and dreams, they are still your parents.
Don’t think less of yourself. Being in a relationship does not make you a better, more achieved person. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t met someone yet who is crazy about you, as you are with them, these things take time. Finding someone who is 100% compatible with doesn’t just happen out of the blue, you or they have to find you first.
Don’t feel sorry for yourself. Just because everyone around you is dating doesn’t mean you should be too. Think about the couples around you. Is their relationship really what you desire, or are you just jealous? Don’t get into a relationship just for the fun of it. You’ll only end up hurting others and yourself.
Say Yes to Life. Everyone has seen or at least heard of that Jim Carrey movie, Yes Man. This is you now. You are a Yes Woman. The best part about being single is waking up every morning not knowing exactly where the day will take you. The possibilities are endless, as cliche as it sounds. Being in a relationship can be so predictable and has a tendency to feel like a love song on repeat. It gives you those butterflies in your stomach and all those other cheeseball effects, but after a while, it can start to feel dull or routine. Break into song every time you wake up or try a new cultural experience. If you have a friend who plays in a band, tag along to one of their shows or plan a weekend getaway for just you and your girls. Do anything! Try everything! But most importantly, say YES to opportunities that present themselves to you. This is the best time to explore and be adventurous. It is valuable to discover new things about yourself and even learn about things you may be afraid of or unfamiliar with.
Think of all the good things you can do/enjoy while you are single. You can go out and enjoy yourself at a disco without worrying about what your girlfriend or boyfriend will think of you while you’re doing your embarrassing chicken dance in front of all your friends. You can be yourself without having to worry about meeting anybody’s standards or impressing them. You won’t have to go on any possibly awkward dates, worry about what you wear or do anything that you don’t want to do, such as see the stupid movie that only your girlfriend/boyfriend wants to see.